We all have those friends. The ones who we're stuck like glue with in grade school, and high school, but once you're both out in the real world, you grow apart.
You try to keep in touch via emails, phone calls, texting, sometimes even snail mail. But eventually you fall victim to your new adult life, and time goes by and you don't speak anymore. Then, one day you run into your old friend somewhere, and you catch up for a minute, and then part ways promising to "get together soon". And most of the time, that "soon" never comes.
The reason for this post is that I have a dilemma. I have a one of these "friends", someone who I was so close with growing up, but we have since parted ways. Now, here's my dilemma. She is recently engaged, and has not only invited The Hubs and I to the engagement party, the bridal shower, and wedding, but she has asked if M can be a flower girl. And I'm torn. I mean, I'm so very, very happy for her, and I wish her a very long and happy life, but I'm just not sure I want to attend the wedding, and I'm definitely not sure about M being in the bridal party.
Here's the thing, if we go for years without talking, aside from the occasional facebook comment here and there, why do you suddenly want me to attend every wedding related party, and have my child be a part of the ceremony?
Now, listen, I'm really not trying to be rude. I'm just saying that it's almost like inviting a very distant cousin to your wedding, because we no longer know anything about each other. We've both grown, and changed. And I know that some could argue that she would like to be friends again, but, if that were the case, wouldn't she have reached out sooner? Wouldn't she have come to M's first birthday party? She was invited, after all!
Anyway, I just don't know what to do. We received the invitation to the engagement party, and I'm supposed to RSVP soon, but I just don't know what to say. So obviously the right thing to do is to ask you, my darling readers! What would you do if you were in my shoes? Suck it up and attend all of the festivities? Just attend the wedding? Let M be their flower girl? Tell me what to do!! Because obviously y'all should be the ones to make all of my life decisions, right?